Have you been lucky enough to have someone love you so much – they loved you even though you didn’t love them back?
Sometimes we are blinded by things that are in our path because we seek something different. Maybe what is in front of us is too simple or too easy, or too available. Maybe we want more of a challenge. For some the chase is where all the excitement is.
There are a lot of people who love to pursue, and when it comes to love, who doesn’t want to be pursued? That is flattery at its finest.
But what if you had love in your life and you think it’s been your best – but you’ve seen others – witnessed other love relationships and you KNOW you have not had THAT.
But alas – maybe you are the one who is broken and who wants to go through that experience again? It’s almost easy to get caught up in the sureness of ‘Nope, not doing that again’ – to guarantee that the twist in the heart doesn’t happen more than once.
I guess it’s good to feel safe, but does this give you joy? Hmmmm, not sure about that. My guess is if you’re reading this then you probably want more than what you’re saying you do.
The first person I knew I was in love with was all wrong for me. He was the guy that my parents could see right through. He – in the end – hurt me, and I hurt him in return. He paved the way for the next man who came into life who wanted to love me and who I resisted.
Yes – this is what we do. We love – we get hurt – we hurt back – we don’t heal – we don’t know how to deal – and the pattern goes on and on. It doesn’t happen to each of us but it happens to a lot of us.
We want love, the right love, the good love, the honest love, yet we hold back. And we guard ourselves or we play the part where we won’t get hurt and can’t get hurt and it’s just this endless battle of with holding. Some of us break away before we ‘really love’...wow.
Well, there are no accidents in life. Part of how love appears in our lives is due to karmic patterns or behaviors we were born into. Without being aware we have no clue what we are doing. We just kind of go through life wondering why we don’t get it when we’re good people.
Love isn’t really complicated. It’s just hard to unlearn certain behaviors – defense mechanisms being one of them. Resisting love being the result. It even gets weirder when we have someone who loves us because they see us for the beautiful person we are but we don’t, so we don’t give that person a chance.
I know, it’s so odd isn’t it? We can be so clueless about the obvious. But the good news is this: you have everything you need to have what your heart desires. You can actually make that list of what you dream of having in another person who would be the greatest love of your life.
Better yet – make a list of all the wonderful things you are – that you have to share with the person who is meant to be your match. Write about it, think about it and be grateful for who you are.
And know that who you dream of dreams of you too.